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Show of Support for Holy Cross Teacher

Were you there? Do you have information about the circumstances surrounding the protest on Thursday in support of teacher Bernadette Davis?

Patch got word from an anonymous tipster on Thursday afternoon that something had gone awry at in Rumson.

Photos of a protest were sent with word that a popular teacher — Mrs. (Bernadette) Davis — had lost her job and a large contingent of parents and students had stood up, picket signs in hand, against the school's administration over the decision.

The signs in the photos relay messages of support for Davis: "Mrs. Davis, We Love You," "Protesting Ujust Treatment of Our Beloved Mrs. Davis" and more.

The particulars of the incident are not known, other than that, according to the tipster, Davis' contract was not renewed because of an incident with a student over which the administration did not support her decisions.

Calls made to the school were not returned as of late Thursday afternoon. Parents have not offered comment on the situation.

If you have any information about the Davis dilemma that you would like to share, please contact Patch at elaine.develde@patch.com. Until then take a look at the photos above and if you have any to add, feel free to upload them or send them to the email address mentioned.

Eddie Mattioli June 21, 2012 at 01:17 AM
Bryan. Unlike you I'm not afraid to post my real name. Thats because I have nothing to hide, and if anyone has a problem with me expressing how I feel, let me know. If you honestly feel strongly of what you believe, then you should not hide. Bryan, You keep taking about facts. Here is one that is the most important to me, T And its beyond Mrs. Davis being fired. I have spoken to many teachers at Holy Cross in the past few days and they are all afraid to disipline our children. This is a direct reaction to how Fr. Manning handled the situation with Mrs. Davis. How effective can a teacher be if she has to be on pins and needles when a child needs disipline. The reason I commute 17 miles 1-way and drive past many Catholic schools to get to Holy Cross, is that Holy Cross offers my children the best education, disipline and a loving environment. This is due to teachers doing thier jobs and doing it well. My kids love going to Holy Cross school, have loved all thier teachers, they are honor students and are very well behaved. Their teachers have done a great job making sure the disipline and moral values we teach them at home, continue in school. Due to this last change of events, Holy Cross will become just like most other Catholic Schools. The kids will be spoon feed and disiplined as if in public school. Holy Cross has been a very special place for us. If the teachers are't comfortable doing their jobs the way they have in the past. HC will never be the same!
Another HC mother June 21, 2012 at 01:51 AM
Here here Eddie, beautifully said.
Sister Joan Marie June 21, 2012 at 02:06 PM
another holy cross mother....you are out of line talking about the child and the family!
Sister Joan Marie June 21, 2012 at 02:29 PM
maybe you should be questioning her track record if she was capable of doing something like this to get fired. Not ridiculous at all!
George Murphy June 21, 2012 at 04:51 PM
So far, you are the only one who is close here. It is in God's Hands and He may have another assignment for Mrs. Davis. A person like she is can offer so much to so many in other places. I recommend that she pray for guidance as to where God really wants her to be.
jersey shore guy June 21, 2012 at 05:05 PM
I think we should all look at Cathlioc priests (not all of them) and see all the issues we have seen in the past. They feel they are higher then any justice or acountabilty. allot of them have turned cathliocs away from church because of their actions and to me this sees to be a simlar story a priest taking advantage of his postion and sadley we have already seen a priest at this church who is in JAIL!Trenton needs to get involved!
George Murphy June 21, 2012 at 05:10 PM
Sister, I am surprised to see what you posted earlier. "Face it. She sc***** up." I have always viewed this word (and certain seemingly-innocent other ones) as not good to use. Please understand that I have, and always will have great respect for clergy. I am an employee of area churches as an organist and choir director, but even more, I will never forget the tremendous sacrifice that the sisters made for us as young Roman Catholics. Convent life was not easy back then, I'm sure.
jersey shore guy June 21, 2012 at 05:33 PM
this was all about Money (nothing new for the catholic church!) this family that had her fired is on the Building Committee and i bet donates allot of money to the church and i bet to Fr Manning for that fact. like a said we need to look into what has happend at this parish in the past and see what fr Manning has been up to. TRENTON NEEDS TO GET INVOLVED!
George Murphy June 21, 2012 at 06:50 PM
In observing the big picture we need to all step back and let God fulfill His purpose. We must not run to one side or the other because we don't actually know the root of this situation, and we may never will. Allow me to use the following analogy here: If one is walking on a tightrope, it matters not to which side one would lean because either left or right, the fall would be equally devastating. In other words, the safest bet is not to lean, but to balance and to stay focussed until reaching the conclusion of the walk, safely!
Eddie Mattioli June 21, 2012 at 07:50 PM
This is a bunch of bull. I became active in this cause last Monday afternoon, just as I got word of what happened. My wife and I went to the school and demanded to speak with the now ex principle gram. She would not come out to speak to us. Again on Wednesday of last week I went to her office and requested she come to the gym to speak with a bunch of concerned parents and Fr Manning. Again she refused. She also has not responded to any emails. On the other hand Fr would not take any meeting or calls on Monday and Tuesday. On Wednesday when a bunch of parents showed up to the morning mass as a show of support to Mrs Davis, he had no choice but to offer to speak to us immediately after mass in his office. After mass ended about 15 parents gathered in the conference room and waited and waited. Only to be told he wasn't coming. He had to do opening prayers for the kindergarten graduation. He was present at the graduation were he sat next to a parent in the rear bleachers clutching his Dunkin Donuts coffee and never got up to addressed the children nor offered a prayer. We were outright lied to. These are all facts.
Eddie Mattioli June 21, 2012 at 07:51 PM
If he and the principle were so just in their action then why are they hiding. They both turned their backs on the children, the parents and the parishioners. In my book their titles don't mean a thing. You get respected when you give respect. If you want to follow a man that can turn his back on parishioners, students and parents with no accountability. Then your just a brain washed fool that needs someone to follow. Good luck with that. Your probably the same clueless idiots that were shocked when the last priest got locked up. Grow a pair and make a stand for what's right or just keep the bullsit to yourselves.
Another HC mother June 21, 2012 at 10:33 PM
Sister JM, how on earth am I out of line???? The boy was bragging on the playground, for all to hear. Just as Father was mimicking mothers out peacefully supporting a much loved teacher. The only people who are out of line are the family and Father. If you think this behavior is acceptable, I am truly saddened and dismayed to think you as a Sister feel this is how God would expect those who just may have destroyed one's life should act. Shameful
Bryan June 22, 2012 at 02:12 AM
Eddie, maybe with the laguage you use and the bitterness you just do not belong here at HC in Rumson.
Bryan June 22, 2012 at 02:14 AM
Eddie, Maybe with the language you use, and the bitterness youhave towards OUR Community, maybe you should drive back 17 miles and go elsewhere.. You obviously do not belong here.
Eddie Mattioli June 22, 2012 at 02:48 AM
Bryan. I love our school and would drive 30 miles to get to it. Although if things don't change, I just may not come back. I guess the difference between us is that i care about my childrens education. You talk a big game hiding behind that bogus name. Why dont you reveal your true identity. You are ignorant to make a comment that I have a problem with our community. I've been at the school for 4 great years and my wife and I are active in our children's education and have good relationships with the families we've come in contact with. This will be my last post. So go ahead and get your last word in. Coward.
George Murphy June 22, 2012 at 06:48 AM
Let us watch our language, spell and punctuate properly, and professionally, and, act like adults with a cause, not a selfish agenda. Is this not the example we would want to set for the children? Let's see also, what God has planned for Mrs. Davis.. Bottom line: Let's ease up on one another, and focus on the bigger picture with God at the helm!
anonymous June 23, 2012 at 03:18 AM
I have been a member of this church for the last forty years. My children presently attend H.C. church. We were devastated to find that Father Hughes, who we loved, stole from the church. He was a liar, but he connected with the parishoners. We then received Father Manning, an uptight, possibly well intentioned man, who absolutely does not connect with the parishioners and has extremely poor communication skills. For many parishioners, prior to Father Hugh's passing, the mantra was "Bring back the Crook!". I have personally known many families who have left HC Parish because Father Manning was completely inflexible and simply refused to accept human circumstances that might prevent a family member in fulfilling his "complete" duty to the church by "the letter". We're talking strict interpretation of the rules. Rather than meeting these families with a sense of compassion and inclusivity, he told them, "If you don't like it, then go somewhere else". Many of them left and did go elsewhere. We stayed. Story after story we heard, fellow neighbors and friends left. We stayed. As impersonal as Father Manning can be, we remained. This is the church I grew up in. This is the church i want my children to grow up in. This is the community in which I was raised and want to pass along the same values. Just like Father Hughs, we will weather this storm too.
anonymous June 23, 2012 at 03:20 AM
I believe the main issue is two-fold. One, when it comes to money, you really can't trust anyone, not even your priest. Father Hugh's stole; maybe he had delusions of grandeur. Father Manning, alhough he did not steal,1) The funds he did have for the church he appropriated to be used in the school. He then asked the parishioners for money for the building of the church. I had a hard time with that. Perhaps, he should have left that money alone in a trust fund to go to the building of the church when things were put on hold, not spend it on the school and then re-raise money for the building of the church. 2.) He recently supports a family that donates a lot of money to the building project of the church and then lets go of a beloved teacher 3.) He tried to act like an escape artist by dismissing school early, not returning emails, and not meeting with families to discuss the reasons regarding the dismissal which leads back to parishioners questioning his ethics and morality. Unfortunately, priests are few and far between. Although Father Manning has an elitist attitude and is narrow minded, he is our priest and I'm sure we as a family will continue to give the man the benefit of the doubt. But it would be good, to get someone young, energetic, honest, fair, charismatic, connected and involved...I've known two such priests in my life-time ...Father Billy Lego and Father Kevin Kealan. Maybe the Archdiocese could send one the them our way. Until then,see you at church!
Bryan June 23, 2012 at 11:50 AM
To anonymous...You are absolutly delusional!!
Principal of the school...not principle
Another HC mother June 24, 2012 at 02:23 PM
Bryan, didn't your mother EVER tell you "if you gave nothing nice to say, say nothing at all" Anonymous, is entitled to his/her comments whatever they may be. Thankfully they were not rude and defensive as your seem to be. Enough!!!!!
Another HC mother June 24, 2012 at 02:24 PM
So sorry HAVE
Daniel Rusbarsky June 25, 2012 at 12:50 AM
While Mrs Davis contract situation is unfortunate, I think as parents we should be able to disagree with one another and still be civil. We are all members of this Catholic institution and as such, we should be called to have a little humility in our actions and our speech. Anyone who was at the public meeting this past week witnessed some truly disgusting behavior that is indefensible....some of the commentary on this board is no better. All of us on this thread have much, much more in common that we do differences. Please have compassion for all involved in this situation and pray that our community perseveres.
George Murphy June 25, 2012 at 03:41 PM
This is exactly what I have been trying to convey. When God has a different plan, He does not always make the transition an easy one - a sort of get-up-and-go one - as some would expect. A day will come when we may all look back on this and say, "It was for the better." Everything the Lord does He does for a real purpose and, if we ALL look to Him together, we will learn something from this incident. Many of us believe that because they are our marbles then we can make the rules of the game. Not so, rules don't change, regardless of whose marbles they are!
John Sykes July 12, 2012 at 12:33 PM
No more posts...this is the best entertainment I've encountered in ages...... A dysfunctional school, a crazy catholic priest, a former conman priest, parents at each others throats..... We need more....don't stop Holy Cross
George Murphy July 12, 2012 at 04:12 PM
The real enemy here is not the one who opposes the other side from what we as individuals believe. The real enemy is described in the book of Ephesians - Chapter Six. Read it, will you? I have seen no replies to any of my posts. I have tried to contact several people to try to give some insight here, with no response. At this point, I wash my hands of it all and hope for the best because none of you, except for one or two people in the thread, has given God His proper place in any of this. I will shake the dust from my feet and move on to the next house.
And also with you July 19, 2012 at 06:46 AM
Bryan....you don't appear to be the type of man I wish to meet when visiting the Church where I received all three of my Sacraments. You don't appear to be the type of man I wish to visualize when I remember coming to Holy Cross church each sunday with my Grandfather who never failed to write a check in an effort of gratitude for how the catholic church assisted him as a boy. You have posted the most frequently on this site. In addition most of what you say is extreme, biting, and full of bitterness. Telling someone they aren't welcome at Holy Cross because they have a different opinion then you is immature and offensive. God is not only love and grace to me but also the ability to speak...to learn...to communicate. I am so grateful for all of these tools and I find it sad that you don't allow others to use them. I thank the mothers of the school for being brave enough to take a stand in something they believe in. I also believe that if there was a true justification in the firing of this teacher then the community deserves that information. Even though my little brother was babtised by a man who stole from what we gave and even though this same man stood before me on my confirmation day I can still look back and be grateful for my experiences at Sunday school in Holy Cross. My favorite memory from my days at the church was the time each Sunday where we all shook hands and said "peace be with you". I carry this sentiment with me in my life's journey. Please celebrate it.
And also with you July 19, 2012 at 06:47 AM
and fathers , sorry !
Alumni August 25, 2012 at 06:09 AM
Bryan, As a Holy Cross Alumni and active student I truly hope I never run into you at OUR school. Why you are coming to the defense of Father Manning shocks me. This is only 1 instance where Father Manning has been in the wrong. Respect the people that make this school so special, the teachers.
George Murphy January 14, 2013 at 05:15 AM
Thank you - what a bunch, eh?

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