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Growing Up FH Firemen's Fair Style

A look back at years as a kid at the fair

 

The night is still. A light is on and all the trucks are out the bays. Someone’s cooking at the Fair Haven firehouse. It’s fair time.

It’s a comforting sight for the kid in this native Fair Havenite — a haunting of the best kind.

Growing up in Fair Haven at fair time — especially with parents in the fire company and “working the fair” — gave me a bottomless cache of soothing memories ... the kind of memories that warm the psyche like a cup of hot chocolate toasts a kid’s frostbitten toes and heart after a cold day of sledding.

Then there are the familiar scents that bring it all back … looming wafts of cotton candy, fried food and clam chowder rolled into one.

The scents lingered on my parents, Sally and Bill, when they’d come home after a night of helping out with the cooking or counting stock.

And the memory of them walking through the door after a night on the fairgrounds, treats in hand and fair scents trailing them, is something that just sticks with a kid … and an adult.

My mother, apron still tied around her waist, would reach into a pocket and pull out a wrinkly napkin-wrapped piece of funnel cake, sandwich she didn’t finish or reject trinkets from her booth.

Dad would give my sister and me that belly chuckle of his as he handed us old, losing 50/50 tickets, saying, “See that, your father came home with the 50/50 … uh, tickets. Hardee har har har!”

I can still vividly remember the sound of that heavy, old door opening, knowing that what was on the other side embodied all that was everlasting good.

My sister and I, not to mention a gaggle of family and neighbors, helped out at the fair when we were old enough. I sported some really fashion backward 70s smock shirts and frizzy pigtails with cotton rope bows and sold balloons at “mother’s” Grab Bag Booth. On my breaks I made it my mission to win at least one stuffed animal a night.

It was a little rough working the balloons when it was firemen’s night and the beer was flowing. Though a tipsy fireman one night helped us figure out what would happen if we sucked in the helium from leaky balloons that couldn’t be sold.

Donald Duck and his fashion plate friends of the 70s took over the balloon machine. That’s what happened.

We blew up punch balls during the day in the grey, cement floored fire truck bays and stocked the basement of what we called “the hot dog booth” with them. It’s now called the Outback.

My dad drove his pool of neighborhood helpers nuts running them ragged to and from the stock room, which he supervised for years. I still find myself expecting to see him trolling the crowd, sporting his Brylcreemed hair, a clipboard and pencil behind his ear. I can still hear him hollering at some poor kid for bringing a TV to the stuffed animal booth or telling a bad joke, patting someone on the back and laughing at himself.

The motivation for our kids' work: Aside from the fact that it was our mandatory inheritance, we got “tickets,” which were like Willy Wonka money in exchange for the hours worked. We got to “spend” them on the fair — rides, food and sodas.

There was no money, just generous hearts, around us. This was the “fair” part of our upbringing and it was a blessing to need that job.

As the fair would draw to a close, we all knew it was time to think about less fun things, like school.

We never won the car. And, in the earlier years, there were closing night festivities with which we were blasted back to year-round reality — sort of. There were fireworks, high wire acts with superheroes and bands playing on the firehouse balcony. They were mighty highfalutin hijinks to us.

And when they packed up that stinkin’ Zipper ride, it always gave me a sense of relief, after a week of gnawing angst trying to avoid riding it with the “cool” kids. The thing still makes an annual appearance at the fair. I never went on it and don’t think I ever will in this lifetime. Still can’t watch people flip upside down on it without getting an anxiety rush and a bellyache.

That fear lingers … as poignantly as those comforting breezes of home-cooked fair scents and flashbacks of Sally and Bill with their hands full of little fair surprises and hearts full of homegrown love … plain and simple.

My dad died in 1983 during the fair, and the usually colorful grounds that year were overcome with pallor and sullen faces.

Those neighborhood kids he annoyed and loved so much saluted him in their own firemen’s dress whites and served as teary pallbearers. His coffin was carried through town in an honorable motorcade filled with fire trucks and flowers.

Years later, the year before my mother died, she worked at the fair, as usual, having had no clue she wouldn’t make it the next year. I was performing in a show out of the area.

I came home to find a stuffed star on the kitchen table with a note that it was a booth reject, but she thought of me. It has hung over my bed since that night. Sometimes it falls and gives me a soft knock in the noggin — a reminder of what I'm left with.

Thanks Mom. Thanks Dad. Thank you Fair Haven Firemen’s Fair.

What are your fondest memories of the fair? We know you have many. Share them with us in the comments section below. And, if anyone out there has photos of Sally and Bill Van Develde at fairs past, please either upload them directly to the site or email them to me at elaine.develde@patch.com

Related Topics: Fair Haven Firemen's Fair and fair haven nj

Jennifer Woods

2:39 pm on Wednesday, August 22, 2012

Love the Fair! Never won the car or the 50/50 either, but the smell of the fried food, burgers & of course the beer garden is still the best!!! I may be almost 40, but I go back each year w/ my childhood friends. Good times! Thanks for the article. :)

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Chris

7:36 pm on Wednesday, August 22, 2012

I am a life long resident of Fair Haven and I do remember bands playing up on the balcony! Be nice if there was a return to that. This annual tradition is something that makes Fair Haven such a special place to live. There is no other Fair like this and there is no better town in the world to live in.

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Chris brenner

11:01 pm on Wednesday, August 22, 2012

I haven't missed a fair since 1966- I assume I didn't make the '65 fair, since I was only a week old! Your piece is well said- I was a friend of your sister and remember your Dad's passing- that is also engrained in my fair memories. It was my senior year and I was leaving town, somehow his loss all tied together with the end of an innocence- but sometimes, when the wind blows just right, it takes you back- I think that's why so many mention the smells. Every year, hundreds of more kids get initiated into the membership of new fair memories- the absolute gem of Fair Haven life. Thanks for sharing- Chris Brenner

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Elaine Van Develde

11:37 pm on Wednesday, August 22, 2012

Hi, Chris! I do remember you and thank you so much for reaching out, taking the time to reflect and remembering my dad's passing along with the significance of the fair. I don't think Dad ever realized just how well-liked and remembered he was. Never went in for, as he called it, a "big rigamarole," but he so deserved it. We were a very fortunate bunch of no frills kids — yes, a gem of a Fair Haven life. Thank you, Chris. ;)

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Susan

8:26 am on Thursday, August 23, 2012

Spin Art! It spun like a game of chance, and we always "won" a beautiful painting. It was the last thing we did before going home so that my parents didn't have to carry our wet masterpieces all evening.

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Karen Allas

10:48 pm on Thursday, August 23, 2012

I was just thinking of that after I passed the fair yesterday. I still have one I made back in the day. If they don't have it they should bring it back. Would go over well with the Baby Boomers and their children.

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Elaine Van Develde

10:46 am on Thursday, August 23, 2012

Yes! It used to be in the truck bay. As you were leaving, you got to do one. I STILL love spin art. Daydreamer that I was and still am, I could have sat there all night watching that think go 'round and adding paint. ;)

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Jeanne Paolucci McDermott

4:19 pm on Thursday, August 23, 2012

I also have very bittersweet memories of the fair. My parents, Jeanne and Bucky Paolucci were in the fire department, both rose through the chairs to President and Chief. Dad ran the stock room and Mom was in the kitchen, with my Aunts Dot and Mary Ellen Connor, until they moved to Florida in the late 60's. Does anyone remember the Firemen's Parades? Fair Haven always won top prizes for best dressed, they looked so sharp in those white dress uniforms. It still puts a lump in my throat to remember those days. The fire dept. was a big part of our lives back then.

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Karen Allas

10:58 pm on Thursday, August 23, 2012

Remember constructing, dipping caramel & red candy apples in the hot kitchen in the back everyday with no AC in the heat of August. We all loved being part of the process though. There was no question it was a given if you grew up there. FH is the only town I think that can come together year after year to put on such a great event.

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Elaine Van Develde

11:10 pm on Thursday, August 23, 2012

Got that right, Karen! They had a lot of us kids helping out in those days. I don't know how many times a day we ran up and down those steps in the hot dog booth bringing punch balls down there and hauling them out the the booth, but it was a lot. Yes, that kitchen was HOT! We had so much stinkin' fun, though, didn't we?

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Joanne

2:12 pm on Friday, August 24, 2012

Some of my first memories of Fair Haven are of visiting my cousins during fair week. My aunt and uncle would deal out a fistful of tickets to each of us and set us loose in the fair while they sat down to eat dinner. I remember the thrill of being allowed to roam the fair grounds until after dark with no adult to supervise - I must have been about 10 or 11 and living in New York - I wished I could live here!  Well, now I do live here and it's like a dream come true that my kids are growing up with the Firemen's Fair, as well as all the other Fair Haven traditions that make this town such a unique and special place, as part of their childhood memories.

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